The hardest thing about a boudoir session.

My darlings,

The other day I got an email from a woman that said this: How do people get the confidence to do this?

When clients come in for boudoir photos, I sometimes let them in on a secret when they walk in the door:

“Congratulations. The hard part is over!”

Without a doubt, the hardest part of a boudoir session is getting yourself into the studio. After you walk in the door is when the pampering, the fun, and the magic happens.

Personalized Hair and Makeup
This is included in my Bombshell Signature Sessions for excellent reasons. First, damn, doesn’t it feel good to have someone do your hair and makeup? What a treat! Second, my professional makeup artists know how to apply makeup that photographs beautifully. They can hide small skin imperfections, make your eyes pop and do crazy amazing things with your hair. I work with the best of the best in the area, and you’re going to love how you look.

Access to The Closet
You do not have to run out and buy all new lingerie (unless you want to! 😊 ) All of my clients have full access to The Closet at my studio. In the closet you’ll find a wide range of items from bustiers to little black dresses to try on for different looks. I also have shoes, bras, camisoles, sexy, slinky things and beautiful flowing robes. Sizes go from 0-4X so there’s something for everyone. Just bring along a black or nude thong to wear under, and every item is laundered after it’s worn.

You Sexy Thang
Looking sexy does not mean the same thing for everyone. We’ll talk about what you want your photos to look and feel like before your shoot. There are some techniques I use to draw out your inner sexy beast. It’s in there, I promise you. It’s my job to work with you to make sure that we bring it out in a beautiful, natural way that matches your comfort level. You might have heard the phrase “confidence is sexy” and that’s surely true, but you don’t have to be 100% confident when you walk in the door. I’ll help you find it. Pinky swear

A Private Image Ordering Appointment
When we sit down at your private image ordering appointment, you’ll be blown away at how freaking GREAT you look! Each photo that you choose for your final images to take home will be hand-edited so that you look your very best without making you look “fake” or “plastic.” You don't have to take my word for it. We have tons of clients that say so.

Feeling ready to take the hard step of booking your appointment? Then let’s do it, girl! It’s as easy as clicking here…

Hope to see you soon!

xo,
Shalista

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What You Should Know Before You Book a Boudoir Session with Shalista

You’re sitting there, paging through the Facebook group, looking at all of these amazing women of all shapes and sizes that I have photographed.  You’re wishing you could take the plunge, but...you’re worried. What will it be like? Let’s take a look at just a few things that you might be concerned about!

You Don’t Have to Spend a Fortune on Lingerie

What you wear is not nearly as important as how you own it when you wear it.  A poorly fitted or uncomfortable bra isn’t going to photograph well no matter how much you spend on it.  Wear whatever makes you feel sexy AF! One of his shirts, an old, slouchy sweatshirt, anything goes! Before your session, we will go over what to wear in my virtual preparation guide.

You Probably will be Nervous

Being nervous is totally natural! I’ve had my own boudoir sessions done so I know exactly how you are feeling.  I plan my sessions carefully, so there is plenty of time for you to chill out, get your makeup done and get into the right frame of mind before your session.

You’re in a Safe Place

I’ve photographed hundreds of half-naked and naked women in the years I’ve been in business. Every single one of them has a story, and sometimes we talk about some personal stuff during the session.  Please know that what happens in the studio stays in the studio. That goes for sharing photos as well, I never share or post photos without express permission of my clients.

Banishing Self-Hate Talk means Better Photos

You’re not going to “break the camera,” and I won’t “airbrush” all your flaws away.  In the days before the session, I want you to practice self-love, so you enter the session confident that you are going to look amazing. I will work with you to make sure that we highlight your assets and minimize what you don’t love.  Find a mantra, read an inspirational book, put an inspirational quote on your phone screen. Be mindful of letting negative thoughts in. It really does make a difference in how you feel, and that positive outlook translates into beautiful, powerful photos.

I’m Going to Tell You Exactly What to Do

From the moment we start the session, I’m going to be guiding you, posing you and showing you exactly what I need you to do. From the way you hold your chin, your lips, your shoulders, to how to connect your eyes to the camera, I’ll lead you through it all and explain why I am doing it. Boudoir is very different than any other photo session you have ever had because we are using posing and light to sculpt your body. The woman I photograph are just like you. They are mommas, working women, teachers, women of faith, of color. No session is alike because there is no one like you. I’ll help you through this every step of the way, but never outside your own personal comfort zone.

You’re Going to Want to Do it Again

Most people approach a boudoir session thinking it’s a one-time deal. But I will tell you that these sessions will empower you. They will make you see yourself as your loved ones see you. They are ADDICTING!

I’m looking forward to making some fantastic photos with you! Contact me today to get on the calendar.


Sorry I don't have any boobs.

I have been thinking about this topic for quite a while and had a really lovely conversation with a client about it recently. I meet, talk with and photograph women of all shapes, sizes, age and skin color. I really feel like I have met or photographed every type of woman out there! One thing I have found to be true is that every woman seems to have some hang up about something on her body. There is something she doesn’t love.

I am a bigger woman, and have been my entire life. I have wished to be skinny, dieted, and tried to make myself “better” than I felt I am. I have incredible insecurities that I always owned as just my own. I know my size has made other women of size comfortable with me because they’ve told me that.  I am so happy that any woman would feel safe enough to take boudoir photos with me, but as a big girl, I know the internal struggle some of these women have. There have been days I wondered if the beautiful skinny girls would turn away from me because of my size. I have thought that a fit girl walking in will not want me to photograph them because I am fat and not fit. It's my demon. Probably totally irrational, but that fear was there.

A few years ago a beautiful client came into the studio and she was stunning; the perfect body, great curves, could buy any lingerie she wanted and it would fit her. Then she said - I am sorry I don’t have any boobs.

WHAT? Did I hear her right? She was apologizing to me for not having large enough breasts. Then she apologized for “looking like a boy”.  I was dumbfounded. She was beautiful and a magazine perfect body! How could she feel like she didn’t look enough like a girl? At her reveal, she was shows she did have curves. She did have boobs. She was perfect just like she is. She cried and told me how she’d never felt beautiful in photos before.

It’s happened again and again in the studio. Women walk in every day and apologize to me for some flaw that only they see. They point out something they dislike because they think I will struggle with it. Their butt is too flat, their boobs are too big, their hair, their smile is weird, and the list goes on. I ask, your butt is too small compared to who? The next woman walking in the door might say, “My butt is so big” and I will say “Compared to what?”  It’s YOUR butt. The women with small breasts want bigger ones. The girls with big boobs want smaller ones. Who makes the rule of the perfect size boobs?

At a session recently I encouraged my client to not wear a bra under her bodysuit. She joked that they’d look terrible without support, but I promised her they wouldn’t. At her reveal she said, “My boobs look nothing like I think they do.” #truth  We do not see that truth in our own appearance.

As women, we compare our bodies to other bodies and find flaws that don’t exist. We compare our breasts to the other woman’s breasts that we think are perkier, bigger, rounder, or sexier. Instead of comparing ourselves to others and what we think could be better, wouldn’t it be more beneficial for us to learn to love and accept our body, flaws and all?

Even the picture perfect women in advertising are airbrushed and retouched, often to unrecognition. We are not comparing ourselves with reality. Let’s celebrate our own bodies. Love your little boobs. Embrace your big butt! None of those thing determine your beauty or worthiness. You are so beautiful just as you are and at the end of the day the only person who needs to love your body is YOU.


Timeless boudoir wardrobe ideas.

Marilyn Monroe was and still is a symbol of sexy. She's curvy, she's beautiful, but she was just a normal, everyday woman. Her look was timeless. There's something classic about her look that is still gorgeous today! 

If you are thinking of a great look for your boudoir shoot, the Marilyn style is always a winner!

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