The hardest thing about a boudoir session.

My darlings,

The other day I got an email from a woman that said this: How do people get the confidence to do this?

When clients come in for boudoir photos, I sometimes let them in on a secret when they walk in the door:

“Congratulations. The hard part is over!”

Without a doubt, the hardest part of a boudoir session is getting yourself into the studio. After you walk in the door is when the pampering, the fun, and the magic happens.

Personalized Hair and Makeup
This is included in my Bombshell Signature Sessions for excellent reasons. First, damn, doesn’t it feel good to have someone do your hair and makeup? What a treat! Second, my professional makeup artists know how to apply makeup that photographs beautifully. They can hide small skin imperfections, make your eyes pop and do crazy amazing things with your hair. I work with the best of the best in the area, and you’re going to love how you look.

Access to The Closet
You do not have to run out and buy all new lingerie (unless you want to! 😊 ) All of my clients have full access to The Closet at my studio. In the closet you’ll find a wide range of items from bustiers to little black dresses to try on for different looks. I also have shoes, bras, camisoles, sexy, slinky things and beautiful flowing robes. Sizes go from 0-4X so there’s something for everyone. Just bring along a black or nude thong to wear under, and every item is laundered after it’s worn.

You Sexy Thang
Looking sexy does not mean the same thing for everyone. We’ll talk about what you want your photos to look and feel like before your shoot. There are some techniques I use to draw out your inner sexy beast. It’s in there, I promise you. It’s my job to work with you to make sure that we bring it out in a beautiful, natural way that matches your comfort level. You might have heard the phrase “confidence is sexy” and that’s surely true, but you don’t have to be 100% confident when you walk in the door. I’ll help you find it. Pinky swear

A Private Image Ordering Appointment
When we sit down at your private image ordering appointment, you’ll be blown away at how freaking GREAT you look! Each photo that you choose for your final images to take home will be hand-edited so that you look your very best without making you look “fake” or “plastic.” You don't have to take my word for it. We have tons of clients that say so.

Feeling ready to take the hard step of booking your appointment? Then let’s do it, girl! It’s as easy as clicking here…

Hope to see you soon!

xo,
Shalista

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Booking January! « Reflecting on 2018

You guys. How is it almost 2019 already?

Remember when you were a kid and the days were sooooo slooooow and now it’s like BAM! it’s 2019.

It’s been such an amazing year for us here and we are kicking off 2019 with an incredible offer! Book your January 2019 session and get a $50 gift certificate to Bella Vous Lingerie! YES YES YES!!

We have new sets, new vision and new exciting products coming your way and you want to be in first on all the goodness.

EMAIL ME HERE to book your January shoot with $50 gift certificate to Bella Vous!

*not valid with other promotions or discounts, sorry!

What You Should Know Before You Book a Boudoir Session with Shalista

You’re sitting there, paging through the Facebook group, looking at all of these amazing women of all shapes and sizes that I have photographed.  You’re wishing you could take the plunge, but...you’re worried. What will it be like? Let’s take a look at just a few things that you might be concerned about!

You Don’t Have to Spend a Fortune on Lingerie

What you wear is not nearly as important as how you own it when you wear it.  A poorly fitted or uncomfortable bra isn’t going to photograph well no matter how much you spend on it.  Wear whatever makes you feel sexy AF! One of his shirts, an old, slouchy sweatshirt, anything goes! Before your session, we will go over what to wear in my virtual preparation guide.

You Probably will be Nervous

Being nervous is totally natural! I’ve had my own boudoir sessions done so I know exactly how you are feeling.  I plan my sessions carefully, so there is plenty of time for you to chill out, get your makeup done and get into the right frame of mind before your session.

You’re in a Safe Place

I’ve photographed hundreds of half-naked and naked women in the years I’ve been in business. Every single one of them has a story, and sometimes we talk about some personal stuff during the session.  Please know that what happens in the studio stays in the studio. That goes for sharing photos as well, I never share or post photos without express permission of my clients.

Banishing Self-Hate Talk means Better Photos

You’re not going to “break the camera,” and I won’t “airbrush” all your flaws away.  In the days before the session, I want you to practice self-love, so you enter the session confident that you are going to look amazing. I will work with you to make sure that we highlight your assets and minimize what you don’t love.  Find a mantra, read an inspirational book, put an inspirational quote on your phone screen. Be mindful of letting negative thoughts in. It really does make a difference in how you feel, and that positive outlook translates into beautiful, powerful photos.

I’m Going to Tell You Exactly What to Do

From the moment we start the session, I’m going to be guiding you, posing you and showing you exactly what I need you to do. From the way you hold your chin, your lips, your shoulders, to how to connect your eyes to the camera, I’ll lead you through it all and explain why I am doing it. Boudoir is very different than any other photo session you have ever had because we are using posing and light to sculpt your body. The woman I photograph are just like you. They are mommas, working women, teachers, women of faith, of color. No session is alike because there is no one like you. I’ll help you through this every step of the way, but never outside your own personal comfort zone.

You’re Going to Want to Do it Again

Most people approach a boudoir session thinking it’s a one-time deal. But I will tell you that these sessions will empower you. They will make you see yourself as your loved ones see you. They are ADDICTING!

I’m looking forward to making some fantastic photos with you! Contact me today to get on the calendar.


Sorry I don't have any boobs.

I have been thinking about this topic for quite a while and had a really lovely conversation with a client about it recently. I meet, talk with and photograph women of all shapes, sizes, age and skin color. I really feel like I have met or photographed every type of woman out there! One thing I have found to be true is that every woman seems to have some hang up about something on her body. There is something she doesn’t love.

I am a bigger woman, and have been my entire life. I have wished to be skinny, dieted, and tried to make myself “better” than I felt I am. I have incredible insecurities that I always owned as just my own. I know my size has made other women of size comfortable with me because they’ve told me that.  I am so happy that any woman would feel safe enough to take boudoir photos with me, but as a big girl, I know the internal struggle some of these women have. There have been days I wondered if the beautiful skinny girls would turn away from me because of my size. I have thought that a fit girl walking in will not want me to photograph them because I am fat and not fit. It's my demon. Probably totally irrational, but that fear was there.

A few years ago a beautiful client came into the studio and she was stunning; the perfect body, great curves, could buy any lingerie she wanted and it would fit her. Then she said - I am sorry I don’t have any boobs.

WHAT? Did I hear her right? She was apologizing to me for not having large enough breasts. Then she apologized for “looking like a boy”.  I was dumbfounded. She was beautiful and a magazine perfect body! How could she feel like she didn’t look enough like a girl? At her reveal, she was shows she did have curves. She did have boobs. She was perfect just like she is. She cried and told me how she’d never felt beautiful in photos before.

It’s happened again and again in the studio. Women walk in every day and apologize to me for some flaw that only they see. They point out something they dislike because they think I will struggle with it. Their butt is too flat, their boobs are too big, their hair, their smile is weird, and the list goes on. I ask, your butt is too small compared to who? The next woman walking in the door might say, “My butt is so big” and I will say “Compared to what?”  It’s YOUR butt. The women with small breasts want bigger ones. The girls with big boobs want smaller ones. Who makes the rule of the perfect size boobs?

At a session recently I encouraged my client to not wear a bra under her bodysuit. She joked that they’d look terrible without support, but I promised her they wouldn’t. At her reveal she said, “My boobs look nothing like I think they do.” #truth  We do not see that truth in our own appearance.

As women, we compare our bodies to other bodies and find flaws that don’t exist. We compare our breasts to the other woman’s breasts that we think are perkier, bigger, rounder, or sexier. Instead of comparing ourselves to others and what we think could be better, wouldn’t it be more beneficial for us to learn to love and accept our body, flaws and all?

Even the picture perfect women in advertising are airbrushed and retouched, often to unrecognition. We are not comparing ourselves with reality. Let’s celebrate our own bodies. Love your little boobs. Embrace your big butt! None of those thing determine your beauty or worthiness. You are so beautiful just as you are and at the end of the day the only person who needs to love your body is YOU.


Sioux Falls Boudoir - Vintage floral stylized session with Rachel - Part 1

As a boudoir photographer, I am always focused on my clients needs and how I can best serve them. My studio is a real life storybook for their stories and experiences. Occasionally I like to write a story from my imagination, and I was thrilled to pull together the most amazing team to create a stunning spring floral shoot with our Brand Ambassador Rachel. 

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It's a creative outlet to put together my own ideas and visions to create something exceptionally beautiful. I enjoyed the freedom of imaging the session, finding vendors and sharing these ideas with the team. How could I create my vision without feeling like it was cheesy or over-done? I found the best partners and we worked together to make something truly special.

Rachel's day began with Lacey Mae Makeup at her salon near Lake Lorraine. Lacey is one of the best make-up artists in the region. Her meticulous attention to detail and skills allow me to put complete faith in her. Rachel looked beyond stunning and Lacey perfectly brought my vision to life.

Vintage floral bathtub boudoir

I had a very specific idea for floral, and Alyssa Walker with Walker Down the Aisle put together the most amazing pieces. She worked hand and hand and asked a lot of questions to ensure I got what I needed. Didn't she do amazing? YES!! Adore, adore, adore!

Vintage tub and candles boudoir

Our original location didn't work out last minute, but I have my studio and it worked out perfect. I had just found this awesome vintage clawfoot tub online and it worked great!  Its a permanent fixture in the studio, so any client can have these type of tub images!

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We were also able to use the studio backdrops to create a fashion look.

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We had originally planned to do a milk bath at our original location, but we were able to find a solution and packed up our equipment and made magic happen! Check back for part 2 of our session and the milk bath images!

BIG NEWS!! Now offering Mini-Sessions all year round.

BIG NEWS: MINI SESSIONS YEAR-ROUND!!

For years, I’ve only offering boudoir mini sessions at Christmas, and then occasionally for Valentine’s Day. Those are the big boudoir gift-giving holidays. I occasionally offered a mini session to a bride who didn’t have a big budget. Mini sessions are smaller and more affordable, making it ideal for repeat sessions or someone wanting to dip their toes into the experience. Last November and December, we tested out offering White Sheet Sessions and found those to be very popular! 

So, starting NOW, we are offering mini-sessions every week!! 

Not only are we offering mini sessions, we are offering THREE KINDS! I am so serious and excited about this!  And, I heard you when you wanted a more affordable option. I still want to give my clients the love, time and experience, but give more women a chance to have a session of her very own, or come back to do it all again!

You will have a choice of White Sheets, Lingerie (The Angel) and Nudes

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Each style has its own unique type of lighting, emotion and connection with the camera.

The Angel session has always been an offer, but now it has a new low price! This will be a lingerie only session! You will pick one amazing piece of lingerie and we will shoot you on the bed and one other set. You can expect to have around 40 images from this session to choose from!

The Fine Art Nudes session is all about the body. The focus in these images will be on creating landscapes and artwork. These are great images for desks and wall art. These are not seductive or sexual in any way, but focus on the light and lines created by the body!

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And, of course, the super popular White Sheets is now an option anytime!  These sessions allow you to control how much of your body is seen and are shot entirely on the white sheets. They are simple, seductive and incredibly sexy! We have a lot of clients return to do these White Sheets sessions!

With all of these sessions, hair and makeup is additional, and optional (although recommended). Scheduling is limited to 60 days or less.

I hope you find this a great change and opportunity for more people to come into the studio for sessions! I hope to meet and reach as many women as possible. 

Are you interested in booking a mini session? Check our our MINI SESSION PAGE dedicated to our mini sessions and it will send you over to the online booking.

Hope to see you soon!

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Miss A in Las Vegas - Las Vegas Boudoir - Do something scary!

The last 12 months have been pretty incredible for me professionally. I have been a photographer for 14 years, but feel that in the past year I have grown more as an artist and person than ever before. Boudoir has become a sensation for me, and has changed my outlook on life, my own personal confidence and the way I view other women. I took a trip to New Orleans last year and I was so nervous. I didn't know anyone and I was staying in a house with 9 women I had never met. I almost backed out. Even up to the day I left I thought maybe I shouldn't go. But I went. What does New Orleans have to do with Las Vegas? Well, New Orleans changed me and gave me courage to go to Vegas. I've been to Vegas before, but not like this!

There's a huge wedding and portrait photography convention in Las Vegas every year and in 14 years I have never went. I decided that this was my year to go. A couple people were looking for roommates and one of my new friends from New Orleans invited me to share their room. I registered, bought a plane ticket and went to Las Vegas. Alone!

Over the course of the next five days I met some of the most incredible women. We were strangers who felt like we'd know each other our whole lives. There was just a great connection with us. Maybe this tired mom and wife just really needed a "girls night out" but whatever it was, my soul and heart felt renewed and refreshed.

One of the people I met was Miss A. She's an incredibly kind and beautiful soul and I asked if she would let me photograph her. She'd never had a boudoir session of her own before, and so we made it happen. The camera loves her. It might be the kind, gracious woman inside, but her fiery red hair and funny personality are the entire package. I just love her! We had a great time doing her photos and we have already begun to plan our trip for next year.
 


If you are feeling like you are in a rut, or you need a change, or a friend or just... something, I can't encourage you enough to do something scary. In the last year I had a boudoir shoot of my own (SCARY!), took a plane to New Orleans alone where I didn't know anyone (SCARY!) and then took another plane to Vegas alone (Also Scary!). As scared as I was to step outside these comfort zones, I know now that I needed it. I needed to live a little louder and crazier and find myself a bit. I am incredibly grateful to Aroha and the others I met (You will meet them too!) for an incredible week of photography, friendship and inspiration.